Mourning a Mother's Passing: Strategies for Daughters to Cope Effectively
Losing a mother is a profound and life-changing experience. A study reveals that the impact of this loss may be more significant on daughters than sons, leading to emotional and psychological challenges in the long term.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.) lists a range of normal emotions that one might experience in the year following parental loss, including regret, remorse, anxiety, guilt, emptiness, rage, anger, sadness, and numbness.
During this difficult time, keeping up with traditions from your mother or starting your own can help ease the burden of loss. Remembering and celebrating happy memories, such as pictures, books, or keepsakes, can provide comfort.
Grief that impairs your daily functioning or persists for longer than a year may require the support of a mental health professional. The American Psychological Association's Psychologist Locator can help find a professional specialized in grief recovery. If the grief becomes unbearable, immediate help is available via the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, Crisis Text Line, or Befrienders Worldwide.
It's important to remember that everyone experiences grief differently. Some may find solace in local support groups, online chat forums, or connecting with others who have experienced similar losses.
The loss of a mother can lead to cultural and tradition losses, and a lack of maternal guidance. However, it's essential to remember that there are other maternal figures besides biological mothers who can provide support and guidance.
The effects of grief after the loss of a mother are far-reaching and can impact various aspects of one's life. A 2015 study found that women have a more intense grief response and more difficulty adjusting to the loss of a parent. Women who experience this loss are more likely than men to binge drink, have a greater decline in self-esteem, and have a lower level of personal mastery (personal growth).
In addition, grief has been linked to increased chances of cancer, cardiac issues, immune disorders, and high blood pressure, according to a study. It's crucial to prioritise self-care during this time, seeking medical advice if necessary.
Books such as "Healing After the Loss of Your Mother: A Grief & Comfort Manual", "Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss", and "How to Survive the Loss of a Parent: A Guide for Adults" may provide help during the grieving process.
Honoring a mother's memory can take various forms, such as donating to her favourite charity or achieving a personal goal she always wanted. Offering support to others who have experienced parental loss can help you become an important part of their grief journey.
Remember, it's okay to ask for help and seek support during this challenging time. Mindfulness, the ability to focus on the moment and not follow thoughts down an emotional path, can help manage painful memories related to the loss of a mother.
In conclusion, losing a mother is a significant event that requires time, patience, and support to navigate. By understanding the potential impacts, seeking help when needed, and remembering to focus on the positive memories, one can begin to heal and move forward.
